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This is an excerpt from the Workshop "3 Steps To Go From Grief To Peace." Request free access to the full Replay HERE Oh, and one more thing, if you know someone who could use this message today, then share this post...
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Why do we tend to be so hard on ourselves? You’re already going through a tough situation, and yet you expect yourself to “achieve” at the same pace as you did when you didn’t have all the same responsibilities you have now. Life changes, situations change, and so you can’t expect the same results and level of productivity through all the different seasons of your life.
We’ve been talking about grief this month. If you’re going through any sort of life transition or challenging season of life, there’s some degree of grieving involved. Grieving the loss of something as you rebuild your life in a new way. There’s nothing easy about this process. It’s full of emotions, triggers, memories, dreams, desires, and fears. So, if you’re going through something like this right now, ask yourself this question: In what ways can I move through this situation with self-compassion?” Comment below to share your response with me for individualized support & accountability. I read and reply to every comment myself; I want to hear from you! P.S. I led a free workshop last week called “3 Steps To Go From Grief To Peace.” Contact Me and I’ll send you the Replay Oh, and one more thing, if you know someone who could use this message today, then share this post... It’s hard to process an emotion like grief. But, giving a name to the emotion is the first step. Taking a moment to acknowledge and have a name for it is powerful. This process begins to create space between you and the grief. Because you are not the grief, rather it’s an emotion you’re feeling and experiencing right now. So, let’s break it down a little further here today… Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, in her book On Grief & Grieving, outlines 5 stages of grieving. She makes a very clear distinction that, while these 5 stages exist, you don’t necessarily go through these stages in order. Also, there’s no set amount of time that each stage will last. For example, it’s not like you’ll go through the first stage for 2 weeks, then the 2nd stage for the following 2 weeks, and so on. It’s different for everyone. And yet, having an awareness of these stages is empowering. It helps you understand what you’re going through and, thereby, offer yourself compassion through the process. Here are the 5 stages: 1. Denial “This can’t be happening…this isn’t happening” 2. Bargaining “Maybe if I do _____, then things will be different” 3. Anger Anger towards the situation, another person, or towards self 4. Depression Feelings of sadness 5. Acceptance Acknowledging the loss and coming into a new way of being I’m leading a free workshop this week where you’ll dive deeper into understanding these 5 stages, identify which stage you’re in now, and create a plan to move forward with self-compassion. *Can’t make it Live? RSVP anyways to get the Replay! Oh, and one more thing, if you know someone who could use this message today, then share this post... Grief… It’s a big, hard, messy emotion. It can make you feel a nagging heaviness that weighs you down. You feel it the minute you wake up and you’re aware of it as your head rests on your pillow at night. It gives rise to moments during the day when waves of really big, hard emotions crash over you and you don’t know if you want to burst into tears or scream into a pillow. Grieving is a process that often feels like “two-steps forward, one-step back.” It can feel like you don’t have time for grief. Life is too busy so it’s easier to push those emotions down and out of the way, hoping that they’ll disappear if you just stay busy enough. But, here’s the thing… Those really hard, big, messy emotions are coming up for a reason. They’re coming up to be acknowledged, addressed, and processed. They want you to pay attention. When you don’t, the signals get louder - fatigue, insomnia, anxiety, pain, panic attacks are all manifestations of unprocessed emotions. Give yourself a safe space and scheduled time to sort through the grief. I’m leading a free 30-minute workshop on April 13th where you’ll learn the 5 stages of grieving, identify the stage you’re in now, and create a plan to move forward with self-compassion. All this in a safe space and facilitated by a trusted guide with experience in grief & the mind-body connection. *Can’t make it Live? Sign up anyways to get the Replay!
Oh, and one more thing, if you know someone who could use this message today, then share this post with them... I actually thought about canceling my workshop earlier this month.
You see, I scheduled the topic (“When Things Fall Apart: Regain Your Clarity & Strength Through Tough Times”) before war broke out in Ukraine and before I realized that I was going to face a big, unexpected challenge this month. Obviously the war is still going on and it’s absolutely devastating. Personally, I’ve made it through the other side of my challenge (everything's ok!). So, I could’ve canceled the Workshop and I’m sure you would’ve understood. But then I thought, everything happens for a reason. What better way for me to show up authentically and open-hearted to hold a safe space for you than to let you know that I’m right there with you going through it too. One of the principles I learned in my first yoga teacher training 12 years ago was only teach poses that you know how to do yourself. In other words, don’t guide people through yoga poses that you’ve never tried yourself or have any experience with. This principle stuck with me even as I’ve gravitated from teaching yoga into this coaching space. So, I want you to know that everything I share and teach are things that I have practiced myself. Yes, it also comes from my study of science and psychology, self-help and yoga, ayurveda and coaching. AND, it comes from me practically trying out and using these tools to navigate through my own life challenges from career burnout to relationship toxicity and chronic pain. Whenever you’re in a place of seeking out a coach, instructor, or guide of some sort, make sure to keep these criteria in mind: 1. Credentials & Certifications What sort of training have they completed? 2. Experience What sort of experience, whether personal or through working with clients, do they have? 3. Personality & Approach Do you jive with their personality and approach? Someone can have all the certifications and experience of the world, but if they’re not someone you feel comfortable opening up to, then it’s not going to be effective. Similarly, if they have a no-nonsense, rough & gruff approach whereas you need a gentle, stepwise approach, then that’s also not going to be a great fit. What other criteria do you use when seeking out a coach, instructor, or guide? Comment below to let me know! …also, if you missed my workshop this month, use my CONTACT FORM to request the Replay! Oh, and one more thing, if you know someone who could use this message today, then share this post with them... |
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