I sent this message to one of my clients last week, and I thought you'd find it helpful too. It's about defining your version of success...
"Success is definitely self-defined. Do you choose to strive for someone's else's or what you think society's version of success is, or your own? Ultimately, you get to decide what success looks like for you. And, it's different for everybody.
You also get to decide if you're going to make it easy for yourself to feel successful and proud of yourself, or if you're going to make it hard. That doesn't mean you avoid doing hard things, taking chances, or challenging yourself. Rather, it's the opposite - you find ways to celebrate and notice your successes daily and on a regular basis.
Success builds upon success.
The more you build up your own definition of success in a way that you meet that success on a regular basis, the more happy and fulfilled you'll feel."
I'm leading a free webinar tomorrow where I'll expand on this idea and walk you through 3 Steps to go from Burnout to Restored Radiance.
In this webinar, you'll:
Will you be there?
Oh, and one more thing, I'm sure you have a friend or family member going through this too. Please share this post with them too! We're better and stronger when we come together <3
I'll never forget that time I went backpacking through Europe with my best friend after graduating college. I thought I was being minimalist and hip with my Eddie Bauer backpack that my brother gifted me before the trip. Packed to the brim with quick dry sundresses, toiletries, my camera and film (yes, this was back in the days of film!).
Little did I realize that my "minimalist" backpack was actually super heavy to carry around the streets of Paris. My friend and I decided we had to send back some of our stuff. There was no way we were going to be able travel around for 3 weeks in Europe with these backpacks on, not to mention get souvenirs along the way. We packed up all the extra "things" and went to the post office to mail it back to the U.S.
Now, of course, back home, I would never wear the same 3 outfits in rotation, washing them in the bathroom sink each night and hanging them up to dry only to wear again the next day. But, when you're a fresh college graduate backpacking through hostels in Europe, that's totally normal.
So, why am I telling you this story?
Well, I thought of it for a couple reasons. First, I chatted with a friend from Paris last week on her podcast, and it made me think of all things Paris :-)
Also, because life is always changing. What you need in one moment is completely different than what you need in another moment. Depending on where you are and the circumstances, you need to adjust, adapt, and flow.
But, so often you're looking for balance....
...the complete opposite of what you really need, which is to be able to flow with ease through the ever-changing landscape of life.
So, in this podcast that I recorded recently with my new Parisian friend, Melissa, we talk about why:
Listen all the way to the end for my invitation to a "challenge" that'll set you up to start feeling happy in the now...it's completely free and easy to do!
Oh, and after you listen, leave a comment below to let me know if you accepted my invitation and what you thought of the episode!
Can't wait to hear from you!!
A friend of mine told me this story and it made me think of you.
You see, she has a garden in her backyard and her neighbors had to cut down a tree that was, surprise surprise, right next to her garden sanctuary. The crew was able to cut down the tree without it falling onto her garden. Phew!
But, as they plodded back and forth to pick up the debris, they stomped all over her garden sanctuary. She was furious because this was her little safe haven that she created for herself and her family to enjoy.
She went out to speak with the "guy in charge" and asked him not to walk through her garden. He said OK, that he’d let his crew know.
But, lo and behold, they went right on stomping through her garden, not respecting her property or her request.
That’s when she knew that she had to take more action.
So, the next day, she went out there with a yellow string, marking off her garden sanctuary.
To create a boundary.
To communicate that, "This is important to me, and you can't step all over it. That is not ok."
Boundaries are important. Super important.
If you're looking for work-life balance, feeling drowned by other peoples' obligations and expectations, or get mad at yourself because you can never say "no," then you need to work on your boundaries. And, it’s not just setting boundaries, but sticking to them even when you get push back.
You need to:
1. Get clear on what your boundaries are
2. Figure out if it needs to be communicated to someone (or is it a boundary just for you?)
3. Analyze the consequence of setting the boundary vs. not setting it (and, yes, there are consequences to not taking action as much as there is to taking action)
4. Communicate the boundary (if needed)
5. Be willing to follow through on the consequences
There isn't a single thing about this process that's easy or comfortable, especially if you're a born people-pleaser like me.
And yet, it's one of the most important things you can do to preserve your sanity, energy, and compassion for yourself and others.
If any bit of this feels stressful to you, don't worry. The Reclaim Your Radiance program has an entire module dedicated to setting boundaries and will take you step-by-step through this process.
You'll get a framework to stand firm in your boundaries with confidence so you can live your best life, without feeling drained, disrespected, and overwhelmed in your everyday life.
Be the first to hear when the doors open to Reclaim Your Radiance.
This was life-changing! A few years ago, I learned that eating raw veggies year round is the worst thing you could do for your health!
Ok, ok, maybe I'm exaggerating a little. I'm sure I could think of a few other things that are worse for your health than eating salads year round.
But, it was surprising when I first learned that, according to ayurveda, it's harder to digest raw veggies than cooked. Summertime is the exception to this rule.
You see, according to ayurveda, your self-care and digestion isn't the same year-round. It's important to tune in and adjust your routines based on the season.
And, if you're going to eat salads, summer is the best time. In fact, it's one of the things I look forward to every summer (in addition to sunny days on the beach, bike rides, and outdoor concerts!).
I made the change a few years ago, and have noticed a huge difference in my digestion and how my body feels. (It was 80 degrees here last week, which is why summer's on my mind...)
Watch this 3-minute video to learn more about Ayurveda's seasonal recommendations.
Digestion is such an important part of your well-being that we spend an entire week on it in my 6-week group program. Speaking of, this program is starting up again in just a few weeks.
Join the waitlist HERE to be the first to get all the details!
On another note, thanks for supporting the India Covid Relief fundraiser last week. If you didn't get a chance to check it out yet, you can still participate. Watch this video and then contribute by shopping HERE* This link will only be open through the end of this week!
*20% of sales support UNICEF's Covid19 Relief Efforts in India. This is in addition to also contributing to university scholarships and full-time jobs for women around the world. Amazing impact all around!
There I said it.
Even me, a self-care, resiliency, wellness guide and physician who's always looking on the bright side has hard days. In this case, a hard month.
Without getting into all the details, it was a month of tremendous loss and grieving. Of feeling all those super hard, big emotions that make you think about existential things like the meaning of life.
I talk about living radiantly all the time, right? That's my whole thing. And now, I'm going to let you in on a secret....
I didn't learn how to live radiantly because my life was perfect. It was through these tough moments that brought tears to my eyes, tested my strength, and forced me to dig deep. Those are the moments that taught me how to live radiantly.
So, if you're going through a tough time right now, I want you to know that:
Literally, the word emotion comes from the Latin "emovere," which means to move out.
Don't hold your feelings in.
Let them flow through you in whatever way feels right. Here are some examples of how you can do that:
I have space set aside on my calendar just for conversations like this. First let me know what's going on and what areas you're looking for support by filling out this form. After that, you'll get a link to schedule a chat.
If you'd rather have the support of a group, then my Reclaim Your Radiance program is for you. We'll meet weekly and you'll learn time-tested tools to get you through this tough time and back to feeling like yourself again.