Here's the thing: Self-care IS selfish, and that's a good thing!
Think about it. You do so much for everyone else. You live your life putting them first. That's so noble of you. So kind, generous, and loving. It's who you are as a person and it's one of your greatest strengths. Not everyone can give so freely of their time, energy, attention, and empathy.
But, is it coming at a cost?
The cost of your peace of mind and energy.
Do you feel:
If so, take a moment to acknowledge that. Those feelings are valid.
Now, I also invite you to acknowledge that you don't have to stay there.
Maybe, just maybe, being "selfish" about your peace of mind and energy is the exact thing you need right now?
Forget about the massages, spa days, and yoga classes. That's not what I'm talking about here. I'm talking about the self-care that's about maintaining your peace of mind and energy.
So that you can give, love, and serve in the world without feeling depleted and resentful. So that you can show up in all the ways you're meant to and with a joy that radiates from within.
This is possible, even if you're going through a divorce, career burnout, the loss of a job or a loved one. These moments of crisis and grieving can actually be the greatest catalyst for discovering what's really important to you and letting go of the rest.
This can feel hard and scary though.
I know, and that's why I offer a free, no strings attached, Illumination Call. So that you have a space to allow yourself to:
It's super easy to schedule a call!
Fill out this form and then you'll get a link to schedule your call (this should all take no more than 5-10 minutes).
This absolutely blew my mind yesterday!! I was going through my course feedback from the Reclaim Your Radiance Program that I led in March, and this stopped me in my tracks!
"I’ve done similar exercises many times before, but you had so many prompts that my ideal vision was far more detailed than it’s been in the past. A few days later, a friend who is a real estate agent sent me a link to a house that’s in the neighborhood where I grew up, 2 blocks from my parents. I’ve been in the process of moving closer to my family, but I wasn’t planning to buy a house for at least a few more years. When I opened the link she sent, it was literally the vision I created with this exercise. It felt like a long shot, but all the pieces easily fell into place and I bought it!"
This was a 3-week program.
3-weeks of getting super clear, of building habits, routines, and a mindset to thrive, and her dream house magically shows up.
Coincidence? I think not.
That's the power of these practices. That's the power of getting super clear about your vision and priorities, and building the routines to support that. Aligning your daily actions with what's most important to you.
And, the power of working with a coach you trust. Someone who helps you hear what your inner voice has been dying to tell you!!
It's the power of investing in yourself and actively co-creating the life you dream of, for yourself and the people you love.
I'm planning the next round of Reclaim Your Radiance soon, and I want you to be part of it. Join the waitlist HERE
And, if you're ready to make some big changes TODAY, then the 1-1 program may be for you. Contact Me and I'll send over some more info!
Here's to big dream and possibilities! The world is your oyster <3
What makes your heart full?
For me, it's seeing people's faces light up with a new understanding of a thought or concept, especially when it relates to building a kinder, gentler relationship with themselves.
I love being able to facilitate these insights and it’s my selfish "why" for all that I do. Whether it's writing a blog, working with a client 1-1, or facilitating a group coaching program, I can't get enough of it!
Over the past few weeks, my heart felt full as I guided 100 women on a journey into reclaiming their radiance. Of rediscovering, or discovering for the first time, parts of themselves that give rise to joy and clarity. I'm proud of how the group came together to support, inspire, and uplift each other.
When you come together with a like-minded group in this way, you realize that you're not alone on this journey. You find connection through your shared struggles and joys. You rise together, above the shame stories and vulnerabilities, to find the light and strength within.
Here's what 1 participant said about her experience:
"This program allowed me to explore the ideas of what I want out of life. It helped me figure out what was holding me back and cleared the way of things that felt overwhelming. Being able to explore what I want in life in a way that felt productive, instead of worrisome. I feel more confident to tackle things that feel concrete and change now feels achievable. This process has allowed me to paint the big picture of what I want in a way that feels accessible."
As this round of Reclaim Your Radiance is winding down, I'm already planning the next. If you know you want in, use the link below to join the waitlist and be the first to find out when it’s happening next!
In the meantime, I want to know what makes your heart full? Is it spending time with your kids, going for a hike in Nature, creating art, or something else altogether? Leave a comment below to let me know!
Last week was hard. Usually when I have a week like that, someone tells me Mercury's in Retrograde. I still don't know exactly what that means, but, hey, let's go with that! (Has Mercury been in Retrograde all year? If you know what that means, send me a message and let me know!)
Here's what I do know though.
You can't always control the events of your life, but you have 100% control over your mindset and perspective.
So, here it is, 3 things to remember when life feels tough:
1. Be kind to yourself
Play this mantra on repeat in your mind. Offer yourself the same compassion that you offer to others.
2. What can I learn from this?
Re-frame the "why is this happening" or "why am I going through this" to "What can I learn from this?" Sit still and listen. Journal. The answer to this question may not reveal itself right away, but keep asking. The answer will come, if not today, then tomorrow.
3. Let everything come to you. Beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final.
This beautiful quote from Rainer Marie Rilke. It's everything and it speaks for itself.
What are your go-to reactions when life feels tough? How do you cope? Leave a comment below and let me know! (and if you want a peek at my 6-step method to creating a radiant life, get your free workbook HERE)
I was listening to a podcast recently and they referenced a book called "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying." The author, Bronnie Ware, was a palliative care nurse. She asked her dying patients what their biggest regrets were. Do you know what they said?
"I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me."
Wow. That's so powerful.
How often do you:
And, when you do those things, how does it make you feel inside?
Lost, frustrated, taken advantage of?
I'm here to tell you that you don't have to live that way. Don't let this be your #1 regret too.
I'm not saying it's easy. In fact, it can be downright hard to go against the grain and march to the beat of your own drummer.
But, it's worth it.
When your heart, thoughts, words, and actions line up. When you feel proud of yourself for standing in your truth. Even when it feels like your world is tumbling down around you.
I always say your inner voice is Divinity speaking through you. It gets covered up though. By all the noise in the world. The news, social media, conditioned habits and thought patterns. They all cover up your inner voice and make it hard to hear.
That's where tools like meditation, yoga, and self-reflection come in. They help you cut through the noise and see things clearly.
But, sometimes that's not enough.
What I've found is, especially when you're going through tough times, is that you also need a person. Someone you trust. Who can validate your experience and help you believe in yourself again. Help you trust your intuition once more.
It's the combination of tools, a trusted guide, and your commitment to living a life true to yourself.
If you're tired of living for everyone else and you're ready to make a change, then check out the Restore Your Radiance program. It's a 1-1 weekly coaching program where you'll learn the tools trust yourself again.
Here's what Luiza said about the program:
"When I started, my goal was to learn about Ayurveda and nutrition. Sheetal quickly understood that I was actually searching for something deeper - a path for self-love and well-being. She combined ayurveda, coaching, and personal experiences to create a deep healing connection. She shared practical tools to help me deal with diverse situations that kept me away from my goals. Sheetal is generous and authentic. She listens with her heart. I'll always be grateful for her guidance on this beautiful inner journey I am on."
And, Tanya said this:
"I came to Sheetal when I was dealing with difficulties in my marriage, grieving the loss of my father, and navigating running my own business. Within minutes of meeting, she recognized what I was facing and empowered me with trusting my intuition. I felt comforted by her support as I navigated the uncertain waters of my future. I’ve learned mindset skills that I’ll use for the rest of my life. I love who I’m becoming since I started working with her. I feel happier and more peaceful. Working with Sheetal is perfect for anyone going through a rough period in their life and working on learning to trust themselves again. Sheetal will help you get back to your normal self."
The next session starts March 1st and I only have 2 spots available.