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I was leading a group through the Career & Relationships module of Reclaim Your Radiance last year, and one of the participants shared such a great insight. You see, in this module, we talk a lot about boundaries. So often, we end up feeling depleted and drained in relationships (at work or home) because we’re not setting boundaries to protect our needs and priorities.
You place “people-pleasing” higher on your priority list than your own self-care. This leads to resentment and conflict in relationships. Why? Because you’re not staying true to yourself. One of the top 5 regrets of the dying is “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not what others expected of me.” How powerful is that?? And yet, that’s what we do in relationships all the time. So, at the end of the lesson, my student said to me that this module taught her the ABC’s of relationships: A = Acceptance (of yourself and the other person) B = Boundaries (my favorite definition of boundaries is “the space from which I can love and respect you and me at the same time.” C = Courage (opening yourself up to any relationship is a radical act of courage & vulnerability) There you have it! The ABC’s of relationships - Acceptance, Boundaries, and Courage. I led a free workshop last week on Relationship Burnout. CONTACT ME if you want me to send you the Replay. If you want to dive even deeper into topics like this and more, then enroll in Reclaim Your Radiance. It’s a 6-week group program that starts June 20th. Early Enrollment is NOW OPEN.
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Burnout…
We talk about it in terms of work and career, but it can happen in relationships too. Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt drained anytime you were around the person? Or, felt like you had to walk on eggshells? Or, simply felt unheard and unseen much of the time? This could be any relationship in your life - intimate, family, friends, or colleagues. Chances are if you stayed in this dynamic long enough, you experienced (or are currently experiencing) some form of burnout. Collins dictionary defines burnout as a state of emotional exhaustion caused by the stresses of one’s work or other responsibilities. This can show up as feeling sad, angry, or easily frustrated. It can show up physically as insomnia, digestive issues, or chronic pain. Mentally, you can have a hard time focusing on tasks at hand, thereby affecting your work and career. The truth is relationships can be the greatest source of joy, and the greatest source of stress at the same time. When things aren’t going smoothly, it can affect other areas of your life including your career, health, and overall well-being. Give yourself space to intentionally cultivate relationships that fill your cup instead of drain your energy. I’m led a free workshop this week where we:
CONTACT ME to request free access to the Workshop Replay! This is an excerpt from the Workshop "3 Steps To Go From Grief To Peace." Request free access to the full Replay HERE Oh, and one more thing, if you know someone who could use this message today, then share this post... Why do we tend to be so hard on ourselves? You’re already going through a tough situation, and yet you expect yourself to “achieve” at the same pace as you did when you didn’t have all the same responsibilities you have now. Life changes, situations change, and so you can’t expect the same results and level of productivity through all the different seasons of your life.
We’ve been talking about grief this month. If you’re going through any sort of life transition or challenging season of life, there’s some degree of grieving involved. Grieving the loss of something as you rebuild your life in a new way. There’s nothing easy about this process. It’s full of emotions, triggers, memories, dreams, desires, and fears. So, if you’re going through something like this right now, ask yourself this question: In what ways can I move through this situation with self-compassion?” Comment below to share your response with me for individualized support & accountability. I read and reply to every comment myself; I want to hear from you! P.S. I led a free workshop last week called “3 Steps To Go From Grief To Peace.” Contact Me and I’ll send you the Replay Oh, and one more thing, if you know someone who could use this message today, then share this post... It’s hard to process an emotion like grief. But, giving a name to the emotion is the first step. Taking a moment to acknowledge and have a name for it is powerful. This process begins to create space between you and the grief. Because you are not the grief, rather it’s an emotion you’re feeling and experiencing right now. So, let’s break it down a little further here today… Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, in her book On Grief & Grieving, outlines 5 stages of grieving. She makes a very clear distinction that, while these 5 stages exist, you don’t necessarily go through these stages in order. Also, there’s no set amount of time that each stage will last. For example, it’s not like you’ll go through the first stage for 2 weeks, then the 2nd stage for the following 2 weeks, and so on. It’s different for everyone. And yet, having an awareness of these stages is empowering. It helps you understand what you’re going through and, thereby, offer yourself compassion through the process. Here are the 5 stages: 1. Denial “This can’t be happening…this isn’t happening” 2. Bargaining “Maybe if I do _____, then things will be different” 3. Anger Anger towards the situation, another person, or towards self 4. Depression Feelings of sadness 5. Acceptance Acknowledging the loss and coming into a new way of being I’m leading a free workshop this week where you’ll dive deeper into understanding these 5 stages, identify which stage you’re in now, and create a plan to move forward with self-compassion. *Can’t make it Live? RSVP anyways to get the Replay! Oh, and one more thing, if you know someone who could use this message today, then share this post... |
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