There I said it.
Even me, a self-care, resiliency, wellness guide and physician who's always looking on the bright side has hard days. In this case, a hard month.
Without getting into all the details, it was a month of tremendous loss and grieving. Of feeling all those super hard, big emotions that make you think about existential things like the meaning of life.
I talk about living radiantly all the time, right? That's my whole thing. And now, I'm going to let you in on a secret....
I didn't learn how to live radiantly because my life was perfect. It was through these tough moments that brought tears to my eyes, tested my strength, and forced me to dig deep. Those are the moments that taught me how to live radiantly.
So, if you're going through a tough time right now, I want you to know that:
Literally, the word emotion comes from the Latin "emovere," which means to move out.
Don't hold your feelings in.
Let them flow through you in whatever way feels right. Here are some examples of how you can do that:
I have space set aside on my calendar just for conversations like this. First let me know what's going on and what areas you're looking for support by filling out this form. After that, you'll get a link to schedule a chat.
If you'd rather have the support of a group, then my Reclaim Your Radiance program is for you. We'll meet weekly and you'll learn time-tested tools to get you through this tough time and back to feeling like yourself again.
It's not my favorite thing (and not something I do often!). But I'm due for a new car, so I'm going to suck it up and start researching this week.
I know some people LOVE the prospect of car shopping. Test driving different models and checking out all the special add-ons. (I don't even know if I'm using the right terminology!)
For me, I need a car that's comfortable, secure, and will safely get me from point A to point B.
It's a vehicle.
No matter where you're going, whether to work or the grocery store, you need a vehicle to get you there. Now, your "vehicle" may be your body if you're walking. Or, it could be a car, bus, or train.
What about in life though?
What's the vehicle that’ll get you from where you are now to where you want to go? To living that ideal life you've been dreaming of.
I propose that it's also a CAR, where:
C = Clarity
A = Acceptance
R = Rebuilding
These are the 3 components of my Radiant Living Method.
First, you need to Get Clear.
What does life look like for you now, and what do you want it to look like? What are the obstacles standing in your way? After answering these questions, you create space to allow for creative solutions.
Second, is Acceptance.
Tuning into your physical body and it's signals to find non-judgemental awareness of the present moment. It's from this place that you move into transformation and making real change.
Third, is Rebuilding.
After focusing on the "inner work," you move into rebuilding your external world to reflect what's most important to you. So that your career and relationships become a source of joy, instead of stress and overwhelm.
I've guided over 100 women through this process in the Reclaim Your Radiance group program. Women who felt stuck in their career, relationships, and self-identity. They went through this program and got to the other side with clarity, strength, and joy to build the career, relationships, and lifestyle they dream of.
I'm running this program again next month, and I'd love for you to join! Get on the Waitlist and I'll let you know all the details in the next few weeks.
If you don't want to wait, and you're ready to test drive your CAR today…
then Schedule an Illumination Call
On this call, we'll start working on that first step together. You'll get clear on where you are now, what your ideal life looks like, and what obstacles are in your way. Awareness is everything! This is a no-pressure, no-pitch call with nothing to lose.
Here's the thing: Self-care IS selfish, and that's a good thing!
Think about it. You do so much for everyone else. You live your life putting them first. That's so noble of you. So kind, generous, and loving. It's who you are as a person and it's one of your greatest strengths. Not everyone can give so freely of their time, energy, attention, and empathy.
But, is it coming at a cost?
The cost of your peace of mind and energy.
Do you feel:
If so, take a moment to acknowledge that. Those feelings are valid.
Now, I also invite you to acknowledge that you don't have to stay there.
Maybe, just maybe, being "selfish" about your peace of mind and energy is the exact thing you need right now?
Forget about the massages, spa days, and yoga classes. That's not what I'm talking about here. I'm talking about the self-care that's about maintaining your peace of mind and energy.
So that you can give, love, and serve in the world without feeling depleted and resentful. So that you can show up in all the ways you're meant to and with a joy that radiates from within.
This is possible, even if you're going through a divorce, career burnout, the loss of a job or a loved one. These moments of crisis and grieving can actually be the greatest catalyst for discovering what's really important to you and letting go of the rest.
This can feel hard and scary though.
I know, and that's why I offer a free, no strings attached, Illumination Call. So that you have a space to allow yourself to:
It's super easy to schedule a call!
Fill out this form and then you'll get a link to schedule your call (this should all take no more than 5-10 minutes).
This absolutely blew my mind yesterday!! I was going through my course feedback from the Reclaim Your Radiance Program that I led in March, and this stopped me in my tracks!
"I’ve done similar exercises many times before, but you had so many prompts that my ideal vision was far more detailed than it’s been in the past. A few days later, a friend who is a real estate agent sent me a link to a house that’s in the neighborhood where I grew up, 2 blocks from my parents. I’ve been in the process of moving closer to my family, but I wasn’t planning to buy a house for at least a few more years. When I opened the link she sent, it was literally the vision I created with this exercise. It felt like a long shot, but all the pieces easily fell into place and I bought it!"
This was a 3-week program.
3-weeks of getting super clear, of building habits, routines, and a mindset to thrive, and her dream house magically shows up.
Coincidence? I think not.
That's the power of these practices. That's the power of getting super clear about your vision and priorities, and building the routines to support that. Aligning your daily actions with what's most important to you.
And, the power of working with a coach you trust. Someone who helps you hear what your inner voice has been dying to tell you!!
It's the power of investing in yourself and actively co-creating the life you dream of, for yourself and the people you love.
I'm planning the next round of Reclaim Your Radiance soon, and I want you to be part of it. Join the waitlist HERE
And, if you're ready to make some big changes TODAY, then the 1-1 program may be for you. Contact Me and I'll send over some more info!
Here's to big dream and possibilities! The world is your oyster <3
What makes your heart full?
For me, it's seeing people's faces light up with a new understanding of a thought or concept, especially when it relates to building a kinder, gentler relationship with themselves.
I love being able to facilitate these insights and it’s my selfish "why" for all that I do. Whether it's writing a blog, working with a client 1-1, or facilitating a group coaching program, I can't get enough of it!
Over the past few weeks, my heart felt full as I guided 100 women on a journey into reclaiming their radiance. Of rediscovering, or discovering for the first time, parts of themselves that give rise to joy and clarity. I'm proud of how the group came together to support, inspire, and uplift each other.
When you come together with a like-minded group in this way, you realize that you're not alone on this journey. You find connection through your shared struggles and joys. You rise together, above the shame stories and vulnerabilities, to find the light and strength within.
Here's what 1 participant said about her experience:
"This program allowed me to explore the ideas of what I want out of life. It helped me figure out what was holding me back and cleared the way of things that felt overwhelming. Being able to explore what I want in life in a way that felt productive, instead of worrisome. I feel more confident to tackle things that feel concrete and change now feels achievable. This process has allowed me to paint the big picture of what I want in a way that feels accessible."
As this round of Reclaim Your Radiance is winding down, I'm already planning the next. If you know you want in, use the link below to join the waitlist and be the first to find out when it’s happening next!
In the meantime, I want to know what makes your heart full? Is it spending time with your kids, going for a hike in Nature, creating art, or something else altogether? Leave a comment below to let me know!