I was listening to a podcast recently and they referenced a book called "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying." The author, Bronnie Ware, was a palliative care nurse. She asked her dying patients what their biggest regrets were. Do you know what they said?
"I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me."
Wow. That's so powerful.
How often do you:
And, when you do those things, how does it make you feel inside?
Lost, frustrated, taken advantage of?
I'm here to tell you that you don't have to live that way. Don't let this be your #1 regret too.
I'm not saying it's easy. In fact, it can be downright hard to go against the grain and march to the beat of your own drummer.
But, it's worth it.
When your heart, thoughts, words, and actions line up. When you feel proud of yourself for standing in your truth. Even when it feels like your world is tumbling down around you.
I always say your inner voice is Divinity speaking through you. It gets covered up though. By all the noise in the world. The news, social media, conditioned habits and thought patterns. They all cover up your inner voice and make it hard to hear.
That's where tools like meditation, yoga, and self-reflection come in. They help you cut through the noise and see things clearly.
But, sometimes that's not enough.
What I've found is, especially when you're going through tough times, is that you also need a person. Someone you trust. Who can validate your experience and help you believe in yourself again. Help you trust your intuition once more.
It's the combination of tools, a trusted guide, and your commitment to living a life true to yourself.
If you're tired of living for everyone else and you're ready to make a change, then check out the Restore Your Radiance program. It's a 1-1 weekly coaching program where you'll learn the tools trust yourself again.
Here's what Luiza said about the program:
"When I started, my goal was to learn about Ayurveda and nutrition. Sheetal quickly understood that I was actually searching for something deeper - a path for self-love and well-being. She combined ayurveda, coaching, and personal experiences to create a deep healing connection. She shared practical tools to help me deal with diverse situations that kept me away from my goals. Sheetal is generous and authentic. She listens with her heart. I'll always be grateful for her guidance on this beautiful inner journey I am on."
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"I came to Sheetal when I was dealing with difficulties in my marriage, grieving the loss of my father, and navigating running my own business. Within minutes of meeting, she recognized what I was facing and empowered me with trusting my intuition. I felt comforted by her support as I navigated the uncertain waters of my future. I’ve learned mindset skills that I’ll use for the rest of my life. I love who I’m becoming since I started working with her. I feel happier and more peaceful. Working with Sheetal is perfect for anyone going through a rough period in their life and working on learning to trust themselves again. Sheetal will help you get back to your normal self."
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My family and I were on vacation in a small town on the 2nd largest island in Fiji (pre-pandemic!). My brother went out for a run on a dirt road past the tiny airport that consisted of a small shed and 2 employees. A car drove past him, and the driver yelled out, "Do you need a ride?" Because really, what other reason would you have to run on a remote tropical island than being in a hurry to get somewhere???
As a runner myself, this story had me rolling on the floor laughing!
In so many parts of the world, exercise as we know it, doesn't exist. People don't go for runs just for fun. Or, hit the gym for strength training. It's not
something they make an extra effort to do.
Movement is part of their lifestyle. Their day to day. They walk to their neighbor's house for a cup of tea. Or, down to the village market to get groceries. Or, they sit on the floor to eat, and so they go from a seated to standing position throughout the day.
Then why do we, in the West, put so much pressure on ourselves to "exercise?"
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Movement is important. You need to engage your muscles to build strength and prevent atrophy. Movement keeps your heart healthy and your circulation strong. It increases endorphins and makes you feel good.
So, yes, you need movement.
But, you don't need to stress yourself out over going to the gym or running for an hour a day.
All you need to do is move.
Here's something I want you to try this week:
When you're working from home, set a timer for 25 minutes. This is your time to work. When the timer goes off, stand up and reset your timer for 5 minutes. During those 5 minutes, move. Walk to the kitchen and make a cup of tea. Or, do a set of squats or lunges. It doesn't matter what you do, as long as you get up and move.
This is the Pomodoro Method and it's something I've been doing for the past year. It's a great way to add movement to your day. These breaks also help you stay focused and more attentive during the times that you’re working.
I've found its even helped me keep my house clean! I often use those 5-minute breaks to wash dishes or fold laundry. Win-Win!!
Here's a quote from an article I read recently:
"Just getting up every once in a while, every 10 minutes or so — just to go to the bathroom or pet your dog or make yourself a cup of tea — even though you're not spending a lot of energy, you're turning on your muscles."
So, stop making yourself feel guilty for not hitting the gym, or taking that spin class. All you need to do is move!
Now, you might be saying, "That's great for you, Sheetal, but you don't understand how crazy my schedule is!"
I get it. I'm a doctor and solopreneur. I know the challenges of fitting it all in and finding joy and happiness somewhere in the middle of all that!
If I can do it, I know you can too.
Let's hop on a call and figure this out. I'll help you come up with small, consistent actions that fit your schedule. We'll shed light on habits and routines that'll give you more energy, radiance, and joy.
Schedule your free Illumination Call HERE
Did you set resolutions for the year? I hope not!
Let me explain...
The days of New Year's Resolutions are gone. I mean, we all know how that story goes. You set a resolution, something like "I'm going to lose 10 lbs this year. This is the year it's going to happen! I got my gym membership. I'm going to go everyday. This year's gonna be different, I promise!"
January 14th rolls around, and you've been to the gym once. Maybe twice. You're already caught up in the busyness of life as usual. Every once in awhile, you remember your resolution, and it makes you feel bad about yourself. Ugh! Where's the joy in that???
Here's what I'm proposing:
Don't do that this year. Forget the resolutions. Throw them out the window, and try something different!
They say you can't expect different results by doing the same thing over and over. So, try something different this year.
I've created a process that allows space for life to unfold. A process where you can set goals, dream big, and still live your day-to-day life. Even if unexpected obstacles come up (and they will!), or things don't go as planned (they rarely do!), you'll still be moving in the direction of your dreams. This is a process that'll leave you feeling happier, more fulfilled, and hopeful.
A key part of this process is chunking your goals down into categories and then translating those into affirmations. An affirmation is a statement that puts you in control of your mindset. It creates space for life to unfold, while keeping your focus on your highest goals. It keeps you focused on who you want to become this year, and less on the actual events unfolding.
Because, goodness knows, last year taught us that trying to predict the actual events of the year can be a wild card. But, when you're in control of your mindset, of who you want to become, and how you want to react, well that's everything. That puts you in the driver seat of your life no matter what happens.
I'll show you exactly how to do this in my upcoming workshop, Thriving in the New Year. It's happening January 16th and you can save your spot HERE.
(Would you rather go through it on your own? Download the workbook HERE)
You move through life, doing your day-to-day things, and all of a sudden you're an "adult!" Wrapped up in all the "tasks" and mundane routines from one day to the next. And, in the blink of an eye, it's the new year and you do it all over again.
What if the secret to getting out of the rut is letting yourself daydream? Letting your imagination run wild with ideas and possibilities!
Spend an hour with a child and you'll see how exciting your imagination can be! Seriously, how can a box be so fun? A single box can turn into a fort, spaceship, dollhouse, and about a million other things!
Visioning and imagining is fun!
It's a huge part of what gets you excited to do the mundane daily work that it takes to reach your goals. Your vision, your dream, the possibility of it all. This is your fuel.
Your vision becomes the motivation that propels you forward.
Let me share a story with you:
There once was a baby elephant tied to a pole. He could only walk a short perimeter around the pole before he felt the tug of the rope. When the elephant grew up, his owner untied the rope. He was free to roam the world! But, do you know what he did? He stayed in the small perimeter of the pole. That's all he ever knew. He could explore the world, but he chose to say tied to an imaginary rope.
You, my friend, are free to roam the world! You have the power to untie yourself. And, it all starts with your mindset and imagination.
To get started, download my Thriving in the New Year workbook. In it, you'll get my step-by-step new year's visioning process.
If you'd rather go through the process in-person with me, save your spot for the workshop on January 16th HERE
What if instead of New Year's Resolutions, you picked a word? A single word that'll be your anchor for the year. No matter what happens, you bring it back to your word.
I know this might sound totally different than what you're used to, but hear me out.
In 2020, my word was "pleasure." Pleasure is 1 of the 4 aims of life, according to the Vedic philosophy of yoga. I wanted to find more ways to bring pleasure into my life.
Obviously, I had no idea what 2020 had in store! But, in a way, everything shutting down, all the pandemic precautions, led to a more simpler way of life. I spent more time in Nature. I tried new recipes. I had to search for creative ways to connect with my loved ones.
So, although 2020 was hard. The fact that I had the word "pleasure" as my focus, led me to find creative ways to enjoy the simple moments in life even more.
The point of a word of the year isn't that it'll make all your dreams come true or your problems disappear. That would be great, and I bet you see a lot of coaches and self-help guru's proclaiming this constantly!
But, that's not my approach.
There's no single thing that's going to make your life perfect. But do you know what there is?
There's mindset shifts that you can make on a daily basis to come into a resourceful state. A state of resiliency and radiance. A state where your actions are in greater alignment with your values. From this space, you'll find a sense of fulfillment no matter the external circumstances.
Not sure how to choose your word of the year?
I'll guide you through it in my free workbook where I share my step-by-step system for Thriving in the New Year.
GET YOUR FREE WORKBOOK HERE
Rather have me lead you through it in-person?
RESERVE YOUR SPOT FOR THE WORKSHOP HERE